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Relationships: The intimate connections we make help sustain us during difficult times and bring us people with whom to share our joy. Who are the people who matter most to you and why? If you had to define what you love about your intimates, what words would you use to describe them? What one thing drew you to the person you love and cherish most?
Marriage and Partnerships: How important is being married? Our culture puts a premium on marriage as a marker of our acceptability, our attractiveness and our conformation with society. If you’re married, can you imagine being single today and what that would feel like? What inner resources would it take for you to be able to start over? If you’re single, do you feel less respected by others, or perhaps pitied, even if you’re happy with your life situation?
Affinity: Some of our connections are based on how we identify ourselves. If you were to define yourself right now, what word would you use first? Are you a member of a faith, a nationality, a race? Has your affinity with a group waxed or waned over the years? What changes, in the definition of the group or in you made that happen? What are the benefits and costs of being part of a group?
Interrelated: Is there a difference between being connected and interconnected? Are your relationships even handed and reciprocal, or do they contain inherent imbalances and disconnects? Have you even been in a relationship of any kind that could be called co-dependent – where your difficulties fed off each other? How did you, or would you, solve that problem?
Broken Bonds: Lost friendships and relationships are hard to take. Whether by choice, death, divorce, a misunderstanding, it’s hard to let go and make peace with what cannot be. What experiences have you survived, persevered, and triumphed over? When have you chosen to release a friend or lover, and how did you make the decision?
Bridging: Is there a place in your life where you’ve had to work to create a bridge over what seemed to be a chasm? How did you find the courage to create a connection that you wanted and needed badly? What were the building blocks that contributed to the bridge you built? Did you walk out into the bridge halfway while it was in progress, or wait until you created a stable platform?
Stitched and Quilted: What are the pieces of fabric that make up the quilt of your life? The connections that matter most? Who are the people in the patchwork which give your life meaning, how would you define or represent each person’s uniqueness and contribution to your life? What are the stitches made of?
My marriage had its ups and downs like anyone's, but when it came down to it, I knew it was solid. I miss that sort of security, and that sort of connection with someone. John Scalzi
I define joy as a sustained sense of well-being and internal peace - a connection to what matters. Oprah Winfrey
What we're all striving for is authenticity, a spirit-to-spirit connection. Oprah Winfrey
When we seek for connection, we restore the world to wholeness. Our seemingly separate lives become meaningful as we discover how truly necessary we are to each other. Margaret Wheatley
Coincidences are a true paradox... on the one hand they seem to be the source of our greatest irrationalities--seeing causal connections when science tells us they aren't there. On the other hand, some of our greatest feats of scientific discovery depend on coincidences. Josh Tenenbaum
Our life is composed greatly from dreams, from the unconscious, and they must be brought into connection with action. They must be woven together. Anais Nin
The easiest kind of relationship for me is with ten thousand people. The hardest is with one. Joan Baez
The main things which seem to me important on their own account, and not merely as means to other things, are knowledge, art, instinctive happiness, and relations of friendship or affection. Bertrand Russell
A good relationship is like fireworks: loud, explosive, and liable to maim you if you hold on too long. Jeph Jacques
Intimate relationships cannot substitute for a life plan. But to have any meaning or viability at all, a life plan must include intimate relationships. Harriet Lerner
It has been my experience that one cannot, in any shape or form, depend on human relations for lasting reward. It is only work that truly satisfies. Bette Davis
I have enjoyed greatly the second blooming that comes when you finish the life of the emotions and of personal relations; and suddenly find - at the age of fifty, say - that a whole new life has opened before you, filled with things you can think about, study, or read about...It is as if a fresh sap of ideas and thoughts was rising in you. Agatha Christie
Don't flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say disagreeable things to your intimates. The nearer you come into relation with a person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy become. Except in cases of necessity, which are rare, leave your friend to learn unpleasant things from his enemies; they are ready enough to tell them. Oliver Wendell Holmes
Assumptions are the termites of relationships. Henry Winkler
Fate chooses your relations, you choose your friends. Jacques Delille
You will never truly know yourself or the strength of your relationships until both have been tested by adversity. J. K. Rowling,
Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the cruelest words. Dr. Joyce Brothers
Our days are a kaleidoscope. Every instant a change takes place in the contents. New harmonies, new contrasts, new combinations of every sort. Nothing ever happens twice alike. The most familiar people stand each moment in some new relation to each other, to their work, to surrounding objects. The most tranquil house, with the most serene inhabitants, living upon the utmost regularity of system, is yet exemplifying infinite diversities. Henry Ward Beecher
No hatred is so bitter as that of near relations. Cornelius Tacitus
When one loses the deep intimate relationship with nature, then temples, mosques and churches become important. Krishnamurti
Men are confused. They're conflicted. They want a woman who's their intellectual equal, but they're afraid of women like that. They want a woman they can dominate, but then they hate her for being weak. It's an ambivalence that goes back to a man's relationship with his mother. Source of his life, center of his universe, object of both his fear and his love. Diane Frolov and Andrew Schneider,
Death ends a life, not a relationship. Morrie Schwartz,
It's always useful to know where a friend-and-relation is, whether you want him or whether you don't. Rabbit
Treasure your relationships, not your possessions. Anthony J. D'Angelo
The ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but hold hands. Alexander Penney
Relationships of trust depend on our willingness to look not only to our own interests, but also the interests of others. Peter Farquharson
You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never lose. Jo Coudert
Shared laughter creates a bond of friendships. When people laugh together, they cease to be young and old, teacher and pupils, worker and boss. They become a single group of human beings. W. Lee Grant
No matter where you live, brothers are brothers and sisters are sisters. The bonds that keep family close are the same no matter where you are. Takayuki Ikkaku
We are obliged to respect, defend and maintain the common bonds of union and fellowship that exist among all members of the human race. Cicero
The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life. Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof. Richard Bach
There is no reciprocity. Men love women, women love children, children love hamsters. Alice Thomas Ellis
Gossip and reputation make sure that what comes around-a person who is cruel will find that the others are cruel hack to him, and a person who is kind will find others are kind in return. Gossip paired with reciprocity allow karma to work here on earth, not in the next life. Jonathan Haidt,
Tsze-Kung asked, saying, 'Is there one word which may serve as a rule of practice for all one's life?" The Master said, "Is not Reciprocity such a word? What you do not want done to yourself, do not do to others." Confucius
Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city. George Burns
Union gives strength. Aesop
There is a healthful hardiness about real dignity that never dreads contact and communion with others, however humble. Washington Irving
Words were never invented to fully explain the peaceful aura that surrounds us when we are in communion with minds of the same thoughts. Eddie Myers
At the innermost core of all loneliness is a deep and powerful yearning for union with one's lost self. Brendan Francis
Friends need not agree in everything or go always together, or have no comparable other friendships of the same intimacy. On the contrary, in friendship union is more about ideal things: and in that sense it is more ideal and less subject to trouble than marriage is. George Santayana
Your absence has gone through me like thread through a needle. Everything I do is stitched with its color. W. S. Merwin
When life gives you scraps make quilts. Unknown
How much piecin' a quilt's like living a life...The Lord sends us the pieces, but we can cut 'em out and put 'em together pretty much to suit ourselves... Unknown